Goodbye Dear Wife

The moment i writing this is where i just finished watch the whole drama, and its actually 5:20 in the morning, my eyes are so pain because i cried a lot just now and its kind a late... But i'm afraid if i just head to bed and sleep, the next day i'll forget the exact feelings.. Hence, its gonna be a very truthful post.. Read through the end and you'll see my after crying face.. 

For some of you who don't watch Korean Drama, and think that this would be another typical love story.. Please continue reading! For those who know me, i am absolutely not a Korean fans, i do watch Korean drama but the total amount wasn't more than 10.. But you can trust my words because my sister is a super crazy Korean addicted and she knew a lot about it and always recommend me this and that.. But not all her suggestion can make me invest my time for the full episode. 

Not sure if i should tell the story line, but lets just start with a little intro.. The whole story is about a married couple where they already married for 3 years and the husband begins to feel weary for the marriage life.. He treated his wife very rudely and did a lot of crazy stuff.. After some times, he finally realize the mistakes and regret about it.. The moment where he started to really appreciate his wife, he had brain tumors.. And the story goes on.. 

It might sounds like a typical love story but trust me its NOT! i make it really brief because its too much to write and i don't want to let you guys know whats the ending.. So if you have time like semester break like me, i strongly recommend you to watch this and its only 20 episode in total.. And i tend to put most of the lovely pic but actually they fight a lot in the drama.. Somehow i just love to see all the sweet moment.. ♥♥

After so much of crap finally i can write what i wanted to write, its basically what i feel or inspired from this drama..

There are a lot of definition about love.. But not even one can really describe what it is.. It might seems useless for some of you now, but at the end you will still hold the desire to have it no matter how old are you..

Back when we were really young, sometimes we'll take the number of relationship that we had as a pride. Of course the greater the number, shows the higher popularity and also greater proud.. And when we grow up, we begins to become more stable, then we will ask for more things as time passed...

What i really inspired from this drama was if i can meet someone that i love him so much like how the girl did in the drama, one relationship like that is more than enough.. 

Well.. People always felt lost and confuse when they were being with one person for a long time and they begin to doubt whether this relationship is exist for love or just a habit to have each other around.. 

Also, there are people who always set a checklist of how a perfect partner should be..                                                            

First love of the husband

First love of the wife

My advice is.. If you gonna continue this relationship or begin a relationship, you have to find someone that you really love about him on everything.. Everything here including all the pros and cons.. Even if he really have some thing you aren't that satisfied, at some point you still find that it's kind a cute and acceptable..

Only if you can love everything of a person, the relationship can stay strong and healthy.. Its a pretty important foundation for every relationship.. 

However, a lot of relationship starts up with "love at first sight" or you might found that person was perfect for the beginning but after sometimes all the good turns to bad.. In this case, you gonna know yourself really well.. But most of the time we knew our self more from experience.. So.. don't be afraid of starting on something new and make mistake.. Its gonna develop and transform you to a better person..

Of course there are also a lot of other reason that causes a relationship to end, but that's too much to be discuss.. Let's just focus more on this drama today! 

This post was actually written in end of April, but i wanted to find pic and edit and stuff so i completed it in May.. And after I watch this, i didn't start any other drama because i am still having a strong feeling on this and i do not want any other drama to crash my memory on this.. okay.. it sounds silly..

One thing good about blogging is once i blogged, its like i record down what i wish to record at here then i can delete my memory in my brain.. Haha... i have short memory.. So hopefully i can move on to other drama after this..

As i promised in the beginning of the post, here is my after crying face.. T.T

I took this pic because i feel that its a moment that should be capture it down.. LOL.. I watched the last 3 episode straight and I am being so emotional as i really cry like hell when something bad happened and stop immediately when something good happened.. i am so into the story... HAHA.. sarahei oppa!! 

Hope you guys enjoy reading as well as the drama "GOODBYE DEAR WIFE"

GOOD LUCK!

The right one

Have you ever been into all these situation? If yes, what would be your ultimate choice?

Its about a girl meeting different types of guys, which all led to different experience and feeling.

Here it goes...

The first guy, lets call him.. Guy A. Everyone must have a bottom line that you've set for your "potential partner" or partner. He must not be a convict for instance. I am sure that you have your own expectation and definitely different people will have different "rules". So, the girl actually meet someone which totally break all her expectation, everything goes just far beyond the bottom line. But things turn out unexpectedly, instead of being loathe and sick of what he does, the girl found a way to just cope with it naturally. Though she does not agree with it. Of course there must be a reason behind which Guy A is a super optimism, affirmative and cheerful person. The girl can easily be happy for the whole day just because of one joke that made by Guy A. Guy A is like someone who born to bring the happiness for everyone, not just the girl but everyone around. Being with him the girl doesn't really need to worried what to do to impress him. Everything go really casual and simple but yet happy.

The second guy, Guy B. He was everything that the girl dream of. Education, appearance, height and literally everything. One of the most special thing of this guy was whenever he meets her, a lot of situation happened like those drama scenario which of course the girl totally obsessed with these. Being with Guy B isn't that casual compare to Guy A, but it is clear enough that making this choice wouldn't go wrong.. Even if its happened, it wouldn't be super wrong.. Guy B was a nearly perfect guy for the girl, he has an clear and practical idea of his future, working hard to achieve it, mature enough to take care of her. He provides a sense of secure in a way that whenever she needs some advice or suggestion, he will be the right one to refer to. Not all the time, but most of the time. Relatively, the interaction will be just slightly solemn compare to Guy A.

Guy C. Compare to Guy A and Guy B, he does not have much point to make the girl fall for him. But as a friend it was nice to just hang out and have fun. The girl dress up and behave all depends on the mood. Its not that Guy C was that bad but just.. feeling perhaps? Among all, he has the highest ability to provides all the materially needs.. at least for now. In terms of happiness level, Guy A is those kind who can make joke everywhere from daily life and conversation. As for Guy C maybe he will tell joke instead of making joke. To be clearer, Guy C wasn't a bad choice but maybe due to different preference or hobbies, it was slightly harder to find interest in common which sort of reduce the spark of the relationship.

So ladies and gentleman, which one will be your choice? 

Well.. in real life, you'll meet a lot of different people everywhere, everyday. You are definitely lucky enough if you have so many choices in hand. But the thing is not everyone you met you can love. I mean.. like maybe due to religion, citizen, age or just simple enough that he or she already being in a relationship.. Of course, if you guys are meant to be, things that i stated just now will not be an obstacle.. But just trust me thou, there are a lot of other reason where you cannot love the person..

So.. if you met someone you love and you can love, go ahead for it.. Be brave! Because once it past, you'll never know who and until when you'll meet the next one that can actually make your heartbeat accelerate, or make you cry like you've lost the whole world. 

XoXo! Good luck! 

Follow your heart

Just to clarify before at the beginning of this post :

1. its not a break up syndrome post

2. its not specially posting for someone 

Well... i don't mean to tell the whole world that i've ended a relationship... having a single life then ask for recommendation of guys.. NO!! its just something i wanted to share to all of you.. if its happens to be similar to your current situation, i hope it does help.. 

Breaking up normally its gonna be sad, hurt, depressed, emotional, torturing and any other words you can think of especially when you still have feeling for your love one.. But when you knew it's kinda impossible for you to get back (at least at the moment being) you gotta learned to deal with it no matter how hard it gonna be.. 

And usually you will be telling or sharing what you feel or what you've been through to your friends.. And yes, they will definitely calm you down and telling you "GIVE UP!! MOVE ON" if the fact is really kind a hopeless already.. 

We can't deny that sometimes they were right, because they can see things clearer than you since they are not involving any emotional thoughts or memories.. Also, deeply in your heart you do agree with them as well.. 

However, what if you can't control your desire? as in.. you still wanted to try it out.. or you still care about what is he or she doing and stuff.. And on the other side, all of your friends and family are telling you not to get back.. What you will do? and what you should do?

At that moment being, all the recommendation you get from your friends sounds so easy for them to carry out.. If you ever been through this situation you will know how hard it is to let go someone you used to be so close to him or her..

Personally i really think that telling you friend is will really help because at least after you've shared the problem to others you will feel more relieve.. But somehow it doesn't work when you get back to home, being alone that time, all of the evil and pain come again..

Hence, in my situation and my opinion, i would said/recommend that do whatever you feel like doing it.. Like if you really couldn't let go then try whatever you can do save the relationship back.. No matter how embarrassing its gonna be or how fool you gonna behave.. okay.. it might sounds a little dump here.. but if you keep on constrain what you really feel, its gonna bring more hurts at the end of the day..

So why don't you try it out at least? okay.. even though you know how he or she insist in the decision, at least you tried without following other's suggestion.. And... even you knew that all you did only brings a greater hurt to yourself.. but at least you don't have to constrain the whole body and mind saying that stop seeing him or her.. Just follow your heart and feelings, if its doesn't work out, take the hurt generously to hurt yourself more.. So you can move on..

It might sounds weird to said hurt yourself more.. but isn't that true? since you can't let go then keep hurting yourself.. after a period of time of disappointment and depression you will be tired.. you will get used to the hurt..

But.. just once in the life.. you dont have to hurt yourself all the time.. trying out is just let you to experience it but not to practice it.. My personal experience.. hmm.. i will still did the same thing like what i've mentioned earlier but if you ask me will i did the same thing in the future if its happen in a similar situation.. i would said no.. Because.. we just.. have to grow wise... and do not let love or loved disguise your logic over and over again..

Jealousy "Enhanced Version"

A lot of things happened since the last post, like... really a lot..

Anyway, finally tons and tons of assignment is finally over.. Quite happy because all my effort and sleepless night has been paid off.. The only things to be focus now is EXAM!

But thats not the main thing of this post, just a little update... 

So.. The story goes...

If you have read my blog before, i did one post about Jealousy. In that post, i am writing in a perspective as I am the one who get jealous and talking about ways to avoid it.. 

So now i'm gonna share some of my experience in a perspective of the one that get jealous by others.. 

Refer to the previous one, it sounds really like a loser to jealous of someone else. If you switch the position, try to think of what's the one that being jealous by others will feel? Will he or she feel sad? or happy instead?

Its true that jealousy is really hard to avoid, but what can you actually gain from there?

Something happened recently to make me realize that how fool am I before to jealous someone else which probably the things doesn't even looks like what it is.. and often putting on a fight or having an emotional day due to jealousy.. 

At the mean time, think about the people around you.. Let say if you argue with your family or boyfriend because of jealousy, they gonna have a bad day either due to your stupidness.. So don't spoiled your day as well as other's..  

Since its the beginning of the new year now, we must grow wiser.. instead of finding ways to avoid jealousy, we resist it in the first place.. Why? Because it probably gonna make you looks stupid and weak.. 

Appreciate what you have even if its not perfect.. You will realize that.. Jealousy is really the most useless ingredient in your life.. 

Can only be brave

Ohai!! Its been a while since my last blog post.. Apologize for that because since back to college, I've turn really busy between works and study.. If you have read my past entry, you probably knew that i wasted a month of holiday to just stay at home doing nothing but yet when the first day of college (new sem) the person in charge called me and ask me to work.. wtf right.. i know..

Anyway.. its 2013 now!! Time flies.. A lot of things happened.. And i have the feelings that 2013 gonna be a tough year due to i have a lot of stuff to accomplish. The subjects in new semester is definitely harder than the previous one, all of them required a lot of reading which irritated me a lot!

So what drives me crazy to update blog is a song which i just knew like.. 2 or 3 days ago.. the lyrics is so beautiful, melody is awesome, or perhaps it suits the some of the situation in my life snd my friend's life now.. I've never try or think of recommend song in my blog but this song is really nice and i guess its not that popular in Malaysia.. I knew the singer for quite some time but i won't go and download his song accept for this one..

Its a Chinese song anyway.. 只能勇敢 by 萧煌奇..

The song is actually more towards relationship stuff.. like.. you can only be brave and learn relieve when something happened.. In my point of view, it doesn't only limits in relationship but in many aspects of life.. Life is unexpected, anything could happened.. people come and go, changes, feel helpless and stuff.. When things are under control and you've try to work on it but still failed.. only way to settle is be brave.. learn relieve (direct translate from the lyrics).. Let it go naturally..

Turning into 20 this year.. another stages of life.. Like what others used to said.. the elder you are, you'll met more worried or harassment.. Which is true because you became more capable in handling more stuff so of course you'll expose to more trouble..

Everyone have to go through some hard time for sure and perhaps not everyone are so lucky that he or she has friends to share during that sad period.. But you shouldn't blame your friends because everyone are very busy nowadays.. So.. believe that you can go through even if its alone.. 

 Hence.. listen to the song.. get the lyrics right.. Guarantee the 5 mins you invest will be worth!!

For those who can't read Chinese (yes I am referring to few of you) you can try google translate the lyrics. 

Last but not least, will try to blog more if I have time.. Cause assignments are killing me again.. But if you want to know more about me can follow me on twitter "@shinolophy" or instagram "shinolophy".. I am more active over there.. See ya.. 

The one week holiday Part 2

Part 2 basically nothing special.. Me and my family decided to go Desa Park City to look around and of course the main reason is to bring Terry for a walk. I guess many dogs would have appreciate this place a lot  because that's like one in a million where you can find a place that allowed bring pets. 

Desa Park City is once an abandoned quarry site, but now it transform to a beautiful place where community, public places and neighborhood conveniences converge to make residents everyday living special and rewarding. Living there is undeniably a blessing because everyone looks so healthy there which you can see they are people jogging, cycling, basketball, soccer, kite, picnic and what not.. The environment there could help every people to build up a healthy lifestyle as well as foster family. 

The picture are all taken by iPad.. Sorry for the super bad quality!

The picture below is actually a father playing basketball with his 2 little son.. They are located somewhere below the light.. The reason of taking this picture is... its really sweet to see a picture like that. Usually i will only see this in the TV.. 

So after the walk we leave Terry at Pet Shop over there for grooming and we went dinner at a Thai restaurant. Its called Soi Thai if i am not mistaken. Erm.. the advertisement board outside is really attracting so we choose this. Actually my mum does.. But the food its just normal, and the drinks its sort of expensive and it taste weird.. 

We ordered a dessert as well.. its... forgot what it called but is the sweet potato with some jack fruits. Its a little too sweet..So you might want to try other stuff when you go here..

Overall a fun day for both the people and the dog.. Strongly recommend people who have pets to come over here. =)

The one week holiday Part 1

Finally i am here to blogging about this. Getting busier these days. So, after a month of semester break, i got back to college for 3 days and here is another one week of holiday. Haha.. But i definitely spend my time wiser in  this week compare to the one month.

Well, basically i am just meeting few close friend and spend some quality time with them.

EVANGELINA BONG  (click into her blog)

High school mates. Its been a while since we last met and there are like a tons of things we need to update each other. So we went Levain to had brunch and just talk talk and talk. Nothing much i can said about her because mostly the content that we talked about is private! haha.. But she is having a pretty good life out there, i am happy for her. =)

Anyway, among all the outings this is definitely the one that has more chatting. We just hanging there for more than 4 hours talking non stop. Sometimes its really good to just do something like this, its relaxing and chilling. Even Eva said so. =D

Chicken Lasagna 

Some sort of sandwich served with potato wedges. Its really nice!! Strongly recommended!!  

The pretty~

The N group  (Click into Jutine's blog)

Another days that meeting Justine, Kaisin and the long lost friend Kok Xiao Qian!
Since Justine has been craving for Uncle Jang for such a long time, so we went there for lunch. I don't really like Korean food because.. i tried kimchi soup before and it just taste weird and tasteless for me. But Uncle Jang has totally change my mind after i tried it! i actually love it a lot!!

It look like this when it haven cooked. So a set contain cabbage, rice cake which is nian gao, chicken, sweet potato and... thats it! with the sauce.. It looks simple but its really yummy!!

The waiter will mix all the things for you.. so all you need to do is just sit there and eat. 

Please do not misunderstanding! I covered Justine face because she doesn't like how she looks in this picture but unfortunately this is the only pic i have.. Haha..

We went Setia Walk after that, only XQ went there before so she suggested this place for us to hanging around. Its a very very beautiful place!! I really love there because.. Its a combination of outdoor and indoor, i think they manage to build with this concept very well. 

This picture is in my camera cause some of the pic are taken by iPad, i wondering why all of us are looking at different place. HAHA.. I like this pic a lot! 

The long lost friend KXQ!

After a few hour of snapping picture out there, we went La Kaffa for a drinks! Never seen this brand before thou.. I think they are well known for coffee but i don't drink any coffee so i order Taro Milk Tea with Pudding (because the girl there recommended so) but it taste awful for me.. But what my friend ordered is quite nice anyway. 

So after all the nice picture where you see we were standing close to each other for pictures, this is what we actually did in fact!! 

iPhone

iPad

iPhone

All thanks to Apple!! lol.. Its just kidding.. i love Apple a lot!! You probably wondering whats the chicken or bird hand that KXQ is trying to act.. haha... i have no idea.. EPIC PIC OF THE DAY!

A little story : 

" So the special things that happened when i out with N group is i show them my very first song that i wrote, compose and  sing by me!!!! I was so nervous because my mum and sis always said i sounds sucks and noisy all those stuff but i got a really good feedback from them!! Not only 3 of them and my cousin YG as well! I am so so so so happy because.... i have been loving music for a very long time and now i finally had a little pieces of my own production and they said its NICE!! i am not trying to show off or what but i am being really grateful for 4 of them, for inspired me to be more confident of this song! THANK YOU!!!!! I will work hard on it and hopefully will be posing here in my blog one day! Thank you.. This song and the support from you guys meant a lot to me!"

If i am not working tomorrow I will definitely finish this post instead of separate this into Part 1 and 2. But i will complete it ASAP! Stay Tuned!!